PRACTICAL POINTERS FOR PARENTS
T. PIERCE BROWN
The hardest thing about the following list is trying to resist the temptation to write a paragraph or page about each reference listed. We shall try to list as concisely as possible every reference in the Bible we can remember which deals with admonitions, commands and examples of proper and improper conduct of parents, with a short comment on the lesson indicated.
1. Genesis 13:12.Lotpitched his tent towardSodom. Parents should try to shun bad environments as we try to raise our children.
2. Genesis 27:5-10. Rebekah taught her son to practice deceit. Parents should by word and deed teach honesty.
3. Genesis 37:3. Jacob showed favoritism to one son, helping produce envy and hatred in the others. Parents should be aware that showing favoritism always produces bad results.
4. Exodus 13:8-14. Parents were told to teach their children about God leading the Israelites from Egyptian bondage. Parents should teach their children of the actions and goodness of God.
5. Leviticus 19:29. Parents should not lead their daughters into harlotry by allowing them to engage in lewd or lascivious activities.
6. Deuteronomy 4:9; 6:7;9:20-21. Parents should diligently teach their children the commands of God.
7. Deuteronomy 7:3. Parents should teach their children not to marry ungodly or idolatrous persons.
8. Deuteronomy 21:16. Parents should not make an unfair or improper difference in the care of their children.
9. Deuteronomy 21:18. Parents should discipline and chastise rebellious children.
10. Judges11:30-35. Parents should not make unwise vows with reference to their children.
11. Judges 13:8. Parents should entreat God about how to raise their children. If a man lack wisdom, let him ask God (James 1:5).
12. 1 Samuel 1:11. Hannah devoted Samuel to the Lord all his days. Parents today should do the same with our children.
13. 1 Samuel 3:14. Eli did not properly restrain his sons, and not only lost them, but much happiness for himself. Parents today should avoid this pitfall by proper discipline of children.
14. 2 Samuel 1:14-27. David’s bad example was an influence on his children, and no matter how deep his sorrow and penitence, he still suffered the consequences. Parents should never act in such a way as to be a bad example, for children tend to follow example more than instruction.
15. 2 Samuel 12:21. Parents should pray for their children as long as they live.
16. Job 1:4-5. Parents should establish and maintain close personal relationships with their children.
17. Psalms 103:13. Parents should have compassion on their children, recognizing their immaturity and needs.
18. Proverbs 4:8,20. Mothers should have laws and teach children to obey them.
19. Proverbs 3:12. Fathers should reprove their sons when they go astray.
Note on Proverbs: Proverbs is full of wise sayings that Solomon said should be taught our children. We shall note a few of the outstanding ones: 4:7–Get wisdom and insight; 4:17–Shun evil companions: 4:24-27–Talk and live straight; 5:8–The value of chastity; 5:9-11–The dangers of idleness; 5:14–The danger of sowing discord; 10:19–The value of restraining their language; 11:24-26–The value of being liberal; 11:28–Not to trust in riches; 23:30–Not to be a winebibber or glutton; 24:21–Fear and obey the Lord and earthly rulers.
20. Proverbs 19:18. Parents should discipline their sons while there is hope.
21. Proverbs 22:6. Parents should train up a child in the way he should go. This is not merely to tell what you think is right, but train him in doing it in accordance with his native ability.
22. Proverbs 23:13. Parents should not withhold discipline (13:24: 29:17).
23. Proverbs 29:15. Parents should not leave a child to himself.
24. Proverbs 31:15. The mother is to provide food for the household.
25. Proverbs 31:27. The mother is to look well to the ways of the household.
26. Ecclesiastes 8:11. Parents should execute speedily any due punishment (always with love).
27. Luke 15:11-33. Parents should be ready to give good gifts to their children.
28. Luke 15:11-33. Parents should learn to “cut the apron strings” when necessary, and should continue to love their children, even when they go wrong.
29. 2 Corinthians 12:14. Parents should lay up for their children’s future needs.
30. Ephesians 6:4. Parents should not provoke their children to wrath, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
31. Hebrews 12:7-8. Parents should discipline the children for the welfare of the children–not simply because of their own personal anger at something wrong that has been done.